Rules for Love {article}

I absolutely love this list that I came across recently (love love love Elephant Journal articles)!

#55 certainly has me thinking…..I’ve been meaning to do a post on husband and will do so soon.  He is an amazing man, with so many wonderful qualities and I’m sure that he does love me but I guess I need to get over the fear and ask for what I want and expect.

1. When it arrives, cherish it.

2. Whatever you accept, you will get.

3. Understand that love is a mirror—it will show us who we are if we allow it to.

4. Only we can make ourselves happy, it is not the other person’s responsibility.

5. Don’t say words with the intent to hurt.

6. Accept and forgive easily.

7. Don’t be scared to disagree, it is healthy.

8. Never be too busy for each other.

9. Do not punish.

10. Accept honest criticism, it is good for us.

11. Admit when you are wrong, quickly.

12. Support each other when the going gets tough.

13. Live in the moment—be present.

14. Leave the past where it belongs.

15. Leave drama out of it.

16. Don’t try to control.

17. Allow a small amount of jealousy.

18. Don’t use comparisons.

19. Celebrate differences.

20. Communicate openly and honestly.

21. Listen very carefully.

22. Don’t judge.

23. Don’t manipulate to get results.

24. Learn and grow.

25. Don’t try to change each other.

26. Don’t condemn each other’s family and friends.

27. Lines, flaws and imperfections are beautiful.

28. Trust your instincts, but don’t be paranoid.

29. Don’t compromise your morals and values and don’t expect them to either.

30. Instead of power, aim for balance.

31. Space is needed to breathe and to grow.

32. Accept that you are both unique—never compare.

33. Have fun, laugh and play—a lot.

34. Be each other’s best friend.

35. Don’t play mind games.

36. Do not carelessly throw away love.

37. Don’t waste energy with negative thoughts.

38. Compliment often.

39. Discover each other.

40. Be attentive and understand what’s not said.

41. Do at least one romantic and thoughtful thing every day.

42. Take picnics and sleep under the stars.

43. Don’t just speak about it, show love.

44. Walk together, cook together, bathe together, read together.

45. Do not be afraid, love requires surrender.

46. Be loyal and faithful.

47. Trust.

48. Be grateful.

49. Fluidity is good, accept change.

50. Don’t sleep on a fight.

51. Don’t cling to it, know when to let go.

52. Discover what turns you both on and explore it.

53. Make love, but also f*ck (regularly).

54. Give and receive without measure.

55. Never gamble with what you can’t afford to lose

One of those days

It’s cold and dreary.

Great fucking weather.

After enjoying some nice time with hubby’s best mate and his wife recently, I was feeling really good about working on things with hubby.

But today – today, I just want to fuck. I want to devour and be devoured. I want skin. I want cock.



Why him?

I recently caught up with TheLinguist, after not having seen him since we first met and had several playdates during his last visit to my hometown.

It was really lovely to see him and he echoed the same sentiments. TheLinguist and I seem to have a really relaxed and easy friendship, if I can call it that already (as this was only his 2nd trip to my hometown, although we saw each other 4 times during his first visit). We definitely speak the same language I feel, which helps a lot in being able to be easygoing and understanding of each other.

Unfortunately I was out of action during TheLinguist’s visit, but it was nice to enjoy some skin and delicious kisses along with some blowjob practice….something I never get to do enough, that I thoroughly enjoy.

TheLinguist and I enjoyed relaxed, comfortable banter as well as the warmth and affection we seem to be able to naturally share, somehow without the lurk of added emotion, which gives cause for further reflection on my feelings for TheMaster.

I don’t know why I seem to feel genuine warmth, playfulness and desire from TheLinguist without feeling like there’s anything more than just that, unlike with TheMaster. It doesn’t feel cold or transactional at all with TheLinguist. Just like two friends who get along and like to fuck. There’s certainly enough attraction, desire and communication for great sex – but we have other great conversations too.

Something I’ve been meaning to post about for sometime, is my recent introduction to the philosophies of Alain de Botton.  In particular, his views on love and relationships in the modern era.  This amazing man was introduced to me by my wonderful therapist and listening to some of his talks, along with reading, has definitely opened up many new perspectives for me.  I do want to post separately about my own breakthroughs and thoughts since discovering Alain de Botton, but for now I reference him as I wonder why I feel the way I do about TheMaster….?  Am I simply letting myself be carried away by romantic fantasies which happen to feature him the most because he was my first real playmate?

Why TheMaster and not TheLinguist? Why not TheBull*?

*background to follow soon


He looks at me like I’m a goddess but also a friend.  He tells me that I’m smart, stunning, hot, sexy, amazing. That he likes it when I tell him things in my interpretation, rather than copy links or paste words from an article.

I know he’s not perfect, and neither am I, but I wish we could find out whether we were perfect for each other. But I don’t think that will happen.

I wonder yet again whether I need to walk away. To let go. Perhaps I do but I don’t want to.

Apart from the looks, touches, words…I like the growth I have experienced – growth like nothing before.  I want more of that.

What if…..?

I wish I knew what ‘what ifs’ he had.

The could-have-been ‘perfect week’

*I didn’t get around to finishing this post last year, so apologies for being out of sequence. Some of the details are a little hazy too unfortunately but I did write half of it fairly fresh – it just didn’t get finished!

TheLinguist was arriving in town at the start of the week and the plan was to enjoy each other as much as possible in between his business meetings.  We were meeting in the evening on the day he landed; followed by the next morning/lunch-time and evening; followed by the next morning and evening; and finally the morning when he left. So 4 days in a row with 7 ‘play dates’.

This was on top of TheMaster being in town a couple days after TheLinguist left.  I was going to be a busy gal – 5 days out of 7. As Barney would say, an almost ‘perfect week‘….in Magenta’s world at least!

Unfortunately a few meetings interrupted plans with TheLinguist, so we only ended up having 4 delightful play dates.

Meeting 1

I was battling the tail end of a cold, so it was a bit of touch-and-go as to whether we’d meet the day he arrived as originally planned. But meet we did.

Uncannily, the circumstances were rather similar to meeting TheMaster.
It was rainy.
I was in gym gear.
He met me outside the apartment he was staying at.

Even though in the lead up, I felt the most friendly with TheLinguist – out of any other playmates I’d met – in the immediate hours preceding our first meet up I was suddenly a little nervous. I was definitely feeling on the tubby side, being sickly certainly added to feeling unattractive – definitely not the hot babe he might be expecting. Yes, I was being a typical female.

Ahead of our initial meeting, TheLinguist certainly ticked many boxes of Magenta’s Manifesto – most importantly, at this moment in time, I felt 99% certain he was someone I was definitely not at risk of liking too much. We had decent friendship foundation, in my opinion, yes decent flirting but he was more chatty than TheMaster so he was far less frustrating. Not that I don’t think I could be mates with The Master, or would consider him a mate……it feels like there’s just something else there, well to me at least.

He was waiting for me outside where he was staying, he wasn’t as tall as I imagined.  In spotting me outside of my car he sent me a message saying I was just as he had pictured.  Approaching him, I smiled hello and we went inside.  There were quite a few people waiting for the elevators so we hung back a little and waited for the next one.  Getting in the lift, we pashed but got interrupted by the lift stopping.

We got to his room and he showed me his huge apartment, giving me a key and the details to the parking spot he’d arranged for me.  Kissing some more, we made our way to one of the bedrooms and undressed.  Already wet in anticipation, it wasn’t long before we were fucking.  TheLinguist seemed to enjoy being on top and face to face, rather than maneuvering to hit the right spots like TheMaster.  Thrusting firmly, it was still an enjoyable quick fuck and it didn’t take long for us to both climax.  I didn’t have much time (hence it was quick), so I got dressed and we parted ways, both looking forward to meeting again in the morning.

The Second

The next morning, I arrived at TheLinguist’s apartment and let myself in. Climbing into bed whilst TheLinguist was still dozing, I kissed him good morning. He smiled sleepily, his gorgeous eyes sparkling – despite the early hour – and pulled me in for a warm embrace.  We kissed some more and, making my way down south, I took his cock in my mouth, spending some time working the shaft and massaging the head with my tongue, the way I enjoy doing.  There’s nothing I love more than knowing a man is enjoying what I do, and TheLinguist was clearly enjoying it all.  After finding his morning mojo, TheLinguist took charge, returning the favour, showing the other reasons why I he has his nickname – he certainly is quite good at using his tongue in many ways.  Soon after he entered me and we enjoyed an invigorating morning fuck.  It was delicious, relaxed and friendly. I really do enjoy how simple things are with TheLinguist.

The Long Lunch

A lunch time quickie was something that had been on my ‘fuckit list’ for a long time and although TheForeigner and I had already had a brief lunch time meet up, it wasn’t quite as satisfying as I’d hoped so I wasn’t ready to cross it off my list. TheLinguist was happy to oblige and kept a free spot in his schedule for me to drop by on my lunch break.

I swiped my way in to find him working away at his laptop, he looked up with his gorgeous smile upon seeing me. There’s certainly something about being looked at in such a way, TheLinguist is certainly a beautiful man and a really nice guy.  Standing up, he pulled me in for a delicious kiss and we quickly undressed, moving to the bedroom.  Oddly enough, something I was yet to really do with someone was 69.  In discovering this, TheLinguist was quite aghast and insisted upon initiating me.   I have since tried it with TheMaster, who didn’t seem to be quite a fan, but it was most enjoyable with TheLinguist and I look forward to enjoying it again with him.

After enjoying some time pleasuring and teasing each other in this position, we had a quick satisfying fuck.

The Fourth

Unfortunately TheLinguist had a meeting run over and so we didn’t get to meet up again after our midday rendezvous, but we saw each other again the next morning.

I let myself in again and climbed into bed next to him. He truly is a delight to wake up, the way that his eyes sparkle is quite magical.  We enjoyed each other’s touch, skin and kissing for a little longer this morning.  I mounted his cock reverse cow-girl and we got to enjoy watching ourselves fuck as the wardrobe had mirrored doors. He tossed me around a little, enjoying a few different positions before we both blissfully climaxed, collapsing in a heap together.  TheLinguist echoed my thoughts around wondering why more people don’t wake up in such a way as we had the last two mornings.

TheLinguist and I enjoyed friendly, easy conversation as I got ready for work.  Unfortunately our plans for another evening meet up were thwarted by a family member of his who had heard he was in town and insisted on catching up.

After parting ways, TheLinguist sent me a lovely message thanking me for an amazing week.  Since our initial meeting, we’ve enjoyed some pleasant sporadic chat and I look forward to catching up with him when he’s in town next.

….It’s been a while

Hi there.  It’s me, Magenta.

Yes, I’m still here.

There has been plenty going on in my world – as there has been in others’ worlds in the blogosphere here, it would appear.

I don’t quite know where to start….let’s see.

TheMaster came and went. His visit was lovely and at the time I felt really good about where we were – that I enjoyed him as friend and perhaps we could become good friends who fucked. Then a week later I felt all over the shop about things, so I’m a bit ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  at the moment.

Out of TheMaster‘s visit, I acquired some new friends via an ad I posted after again discussing my desire to hunt for another girl to join us.  I went for a different angle with this ad, describing my ‘why’ more than previous ads I’d tried.  I listed things that I loved….soft skin, lips, delicious gentlemanly cocks (to name a few)….hoping to illustrate my bi-curiousity and the type of person I preferred to attract.

It was my most successful listing to date, picking up two couples, several guys (typical, unfortunately),  and actually a handful of girls to my amazement.  One whom has promise, but is from out of town so I am yet to meet her.

I also happened to acquire an intriguing new playmate whom I think I will name TheBull.  We have been chatting very regularly since he found me (I almost dismissed him as he really did not speak my language at the start – quite literally – being from another country albeit one with English as its mother tongue).  I’m glad he managed to get me to video chat as he is quite cute, a nice guy, and has lots of interesting experiences from which I have already learned a bit.

TheLinguist will be in town soon, so we will catch up although it will be a very brief trip for him.  I must get back to finishing the post on his first visit, it’s taken me forever to write – partly from forgetting details and partly because we had 4 play dates in quick succession.

More to come – stay tuned! 🙂


Like a kid at Christmas

So TheMaster is finally confirmed to be coming to town.

For four.whole.nights 😀 Holy fuck.

I am beyond excited, yes…like a kid awaiting Christmas, I am counting down the sleeps haha!

We haven’t seen each other since The Over Nighter – almost four months ago (!!) 😮 With a few developments since and MASSIVE personal growth for me, I’m really looking forward to hanging out with him….and of course some amazing play dates!





A conversation with TheMaster

Master: You know I find you to be a spunk
Just wanted you to know that

Magenta: Random but yes – yes, I do
And thank you 😘

Master:  And spunk in my book = amazing mind, body, personality.
And it’s your personlity that ticks for me babe.
You’re hot, but you have such a cool personality…..and I think you need to know that

Magenta:  Lol I do 😀 as in I do know that……thanks. And ditto 😘

Master: Your hubs is a lucky guy, and I hope you know that

Magenta: Yes I rock lol

Master:  Yes you do

Magenta:  I do know he’s lucky

Master:  😘
I may not respond quickly but I enjoy seeing you and talking with you
And FYI – I love fucking you

Magenta: 😂😂😀

Master: Haha

Magenta: 😂😂😂😂

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