I’ve recently discovered an amazing writer and came across this description of love that he had written, which really resonated with me:
I completely agree that hate is best broken down by spreading more love.
I love the first line of the above paragraph:
Love is that feeling where great desire mixes with a deep connection of belonging and acceptance.
I have been contemplating whether it is possible to truly know whether you really feel love for someone (as opposed to lust or idealised infatuation) when you don’t know them very well, and I think the above really helps clarify that for me.
A “deep connection of belonging and acceptance”, in my eyes, can be summed up by a feeling of somewhere or someone who feels like home.
As someone who grew up without ever truly identifying with a place or person that felt “like home” until I was an adult, I do believe I can honestly say that my feelings of “home” aren’t laced with memories and child-like wonder.
For me, home is where the heart is.
When you quieten your mind and surrender to the silence, what do you feel? What does your soul tell you?
When your energy flows freely and you have balanced chi, what answers are unveiled?
When you connect with someone who feels like “home” (where you belong and feel accepted), whether that connection is platonic or romantic, why is there so much fear in showing love? In giving love? In spreading love?
Although I guess the fear isn’t in the actions, but in labeling such actions vocally as love.
If we desire to quash the spread of hate in the world, why be so quiet about love?
I do genuinely ask this, as I continue to heal and ponder my future romantic love – as someone with virtually zero relationship experience apart from my marriage. If you truly feel love in your bones, in your soul, in the very essence of your being…..if you are able to give your love freely, without expectation of it being returned….if your giving of love doesn’t have conditions (….because they love me……because they put me up on a pedestal..) then why not shout your love from the rooftops, so to speak?
If your love makes someone uneasy or afraid, then they are not ready for your love.
Sure it may hurt that your love is not returned, but you just need to love yourself harder.
Keep filling our own cup. Nourishing yourself. Loving yourself.
Because your vibe attracts your tribe – and when you are shining so luminously, you will also become a beacon, brightening the world…..spreading light….
And with so much light, it’s much harder for the dark to set in.
Shine brightly, my friends x